Ride the Waves to Create Your Change
During my work with clients, I find a pretty regular theme that comes up: “How can I just be happy with what I have? Changing things is so hard. I don’t know if I want to throw myself into the unknown.” Change is sometimes difficult, sometimes scary, and ALWAYS takes courage. The risk that we take when making change has the potential to disrupt or define who you are.
Patience is supposed to be a virtue of life. But what about the motivation to make change? Why isn’t that considered a virtue? If we do not make change, we can’t evolve. We can’t fine-tune our expectations for ourselves. If we choose to sit and wait for things to fix themselves, instead of taking action to change our paths, we continue to spiral in the same cycle. No change equals no change.
If every single cell in our bodies change every seven years, then why would our interests, goals, and expectations not change as well? Why is it viewed as odd when we change career paths, or go back to school after 40, or divorce and remarry? If our biology changes, then why wouldn’t the things that make us happy change too?
Is the key to a happy life being persistent and patient with what we have? Or is it learning how to ride the ebbs and flows of change, and accept and embrace our desires to change? If we ride these waves that life creates, instead of pushing against the tide, we can truly and authentically be ourselves. Maybe embracing the journey that life is taking us on in this very moment is our path to fulfillment and meaning. And maybe, by building up the courage to make changes happen, we begin to build a more genuine life.
I would encourage you to listen to yourself when you begin to consider a change. Listen to your body, listen to your wishes, listen to your desires. After all, we essentially become completely new people every seven years. Maybe those changes aren’t just biological. Maybe the changes affect each and every part of who we are.